Generation X men

Here are some great quotes from an article by Joanna Cruickshank in the Costa Blanca News on the phenomenon of male kidults (July 2008.)

The “Ben Jones” syndrome:

  • “the number of male singles has reached record levels in Britain and Spain.”
  • “somewhere along the road the British man has lost his role in a feminised society.”
  • “it has given rise to numerous men over the age of 30 acting and dressing like confused teenagers.”
  • “we’re the disposable generation addicted to the emotional rush of upgrading.”
  • “today’s 30-something men [are] refusing to grow up”
  • “…and will continue to as long as the thrill of our careers and consumerism and technology seduce us into an illusion of happiness.”
  • “I travel back to England often and am noticing this new phenomenon of ‘teenage man.’ more than ever. Men in their 30s dressing like rebellious teenagers…”
  • “Is it any wonder household debt is soaring as these men seek instant gratification.”
  • “there are many Spanish men whose lives revolve around their all consuming jobs rather than a wife and kids being the core of their happiness.”
  • “I am seduced by the idea that the perfect man, job and lifestyle exist out there but I know that the striving for it, the hope of it, is more important than actually achieving it.”
  • “Men in their 30s and 40s are reading Harry Potter and their new favourite films are Batman or The Incredible Hulk. At the weekends they will be purchasing their new favourite CDs or playing on the Nintendo Wii or worse crying into a pint like a child with attention deficit disorder because their football team lost.”
  • “The structures of society have altered massively in Britain. More than ever football and alcohol fuelled occasions have replaced a sense of solidarity, family and community.”

Masculinity needs definition and that definition comes from the word of God. Biblical men are real men, moulded by their maker and not by their culture. Sadly, the stereotypical media image of a Christian man; nice but wet, spineless, soft skinned, bumbling and naive, militates against the gospel being the solution in most people’s minds. Christian men must be willing to suffer patiently for Christ, by dying to self-indulgence and living and dying for their wives and family, church and community. This is part of what biblical men do, the rest comes as we work through scripture and mine the depths of the wisdom of God.

About neilrobbie

I am a 6'6" formerly ginger Scot, in a cross cultural marriage to my lovely Londoner wife. We've lived in SE Asia and since 2005, I have served as an Anglican minister in Wolverhampton and West Bromwich.
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