It’s hard to escape the news this week that Jordon and Pete Andre have split up. Apparently Pete has had enough of the way Jordan treats him. When they first met, Pete was confident and funny and today he’s angry and hurt.
Jordan is reported in the News of the World as saying
I’m in complete hell, this is a living nightmare for me. I could never imagine life without Pete.” But despite her fury, Jordan admitted how SHE had started to drive a wedge between the couple. “I always thought I treated him well but maybe I did take him for granted and could be cruel sometimes. But I never thought he had it in him to do this.”
Pete Andre’s sense of confidence and fun seems to have melted away because of Jordan’s sharp-edged tongue and cruelty. It is sad that their marriage only lasted four years.
I’ve written on this before. There is a pattern in many relationships today which begin when confident, happy, fun men attract beautiful women, but the power of the woman quickly saps the man’s confidence and with that confidence gone, the relationship ends.
This is what seems to have happened to Madonna and Guy Ritchie. His “Lock, Stock and Two smoking barrels” confidence was sapped by Madonna’s power.
I hear lots of discussion in church about men and women having exchangeable roles and even attributes, macho women and gentle men. I hear very little about the male-female power dynamic. What are we to do with power in relationships?
When it comes to confidence in relationships, where does that confidence come from? If we try to find it in ourselves it doesn’t take long for the intimacy of marriage to expose our sin. With sin exposed, our confidence drops. And so, our confidence must always be in Christ, who makes us right with God by faith in his death for our sin. No matter what sin our marriages expose, it has been dealt with on the cross and we are given something to aim for in Christ.
Philippians 3:3 we are the real circumcision, who worship by the Spirit of God and glory in Christ Jesus and put no confidence in the flesh-
Philippians 3:8-9 For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which comes through faith in Christ, the righteousness from God that depends on faith-