9 marks of a great marriage

Been doing some marriage prep recently with mature followers of Christ and so we looked at the purpose of God in marriage.  This is what we came up with, this is what makes marriage great:

1. To glorify God as husband and wife (1 Cor 10:31)
2. To be sanctified (made less sinful and more like Christ) though the intiamcy of marriage. Sin has no hiding place in marriage and must be cleansed away (1 Thess 5:23)
3. For the husband to love his wife by making sacrifices for her, putting her needs before his wants, to make her beautiful spiritually, emotionally and physically (Ephesians 5:25ff)
4. For the wife not to fight against her husband or to wrestle spiritual responsibility from him (submit to his loving spiritual care) (Ephesians 5:22)
5. To be blessed by God (Gen 1:28)
6. To have children, if the Lord enables this, and bring them up in the knowledge and fear of the Lord (Gen 1:28)
7. To have no secrets which destory true intimacy (Gen 2:24)
8. To be a blessing to church family, community and the world (Gen 12:2)
9. To have great and wonderful sex, focused on the enjoyment of the other (Song) (HT Richard – see comments)

These nine purposes put a liberating constraint on marriage, and this is no oxymoron. When we grasp the purposes of marriage then husband and wife find freedom from the pursuit of selfish ends in their marriage. Without God’s purpose for marriage then we wil probably conclude that marriage is for my companionship, my sexual pleasure, my happiness and so on. But when the purpose is turned around from self to other, then we find true liberty to express ourselves as God intended.

About neilrobbie

I am a 6'6" formerly ginger Scot, in a cross cultural marriage to my lovely Londoner wife. We've lived in SE Asia and since 2005, I have served as an Anglican minister in Wolverhampton and West Bromwich.
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2 Responses to 9 marks of a great marriage

  1. Richard says:

    Great & wonderful sex…

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