Category Archives: Transforming lives

Does God expect a victim of abuse to forgive their abuser?

I’ve just watched Mez McConnell talk with Andy Constable, Graham Thompson, and Ian Williamson about the difficult topic of abuse and forgiveness. I want to share it on my blog for some important reasons. If you have suffered abuse of … Continue reading

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If my disciples stay quiet, the stones will cry out.

 ‘I tell you,’  Jesus replied, ‘if they keep quiet, the stones will cry out.’ (Luke 19:40) I have often been left wondering what this little phrase might mean. It clearly means that the whole of creation, even rocks and stones, cry … Continue reading

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Brave Merry Christmas

A poem of lament for advent, a cry to God for rescue, to turn chaos and evil to order and peace.  Come Lord Jesus, come.

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What’s the difference between guilt and shame?

So you are in a conversation about the gospel and you mention the “G” word, guilt.  You say something like, we are all guilty before God for breaking his laws.  The other person responds with “I don’t feel guilty.”  The … Continue reading

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A Pastor Prays for his people

When I am at a loss for things to pray for people, I’ve found Wendell C. Hawley’s book “A Pastor Prays for his People” a massive help (Hawley was appointed pastor for prayer and visiting at the church pastored by … Continue reading

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Philippians – the Epistle to address conflict in Church

“I plead with Euodia and I plead with Syntyche to agree in the Lord.” (Philippians 4:2) Yesterday, I wrote 8 rules for constructive conflict and today I want to build on that quite practical guidance with a theology of conflict … Continue reading

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8 Rules for Constructive Conflict (in marriage or church)

How to argue well and resolve an issue. 1. Define the issue. Work together as partners in the gospel to clearly define what’s bugging one or both of you. Ask questions like “what is the real issue here?” or “I … Continue reading

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To tip or not to tip, that’s the question

The waiter hands you the credit card terminal with your the amount of your bill on the screen and the question “would you like to add a gratuity?”  What do you do?  This is not a question about the use … Continue reading

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Transforming Grace is 6 years old today

Where does the time go?  WordPress has just messaged me to say “Happy Anniversary”.  Six years ago today I published my first post, extracts from Thomas Watson’s five marks of a spurious mourning for sin.  782 posts and over a … Continue reading

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40 days of transformation: Day 8 – don’t bite off…

Today is the twelfth day of Lent.  I’m only on Day 8 of 40 days of transformation.  Even taking two days off for Sundays, I’ve missed a couple of days.  This is fairly typical for me.  I bite off more … Continue reading

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