Christian Vision for Men – Men and Motives #1

Here’s my notes from last Saturday’s “Men and Motives” day delivered by Andy Drake from Christian Vision for Men (CVM) in conjunction with the Diocese of Lichfield.

If a child comes to faith, 3% of their families follow.
If a mother comes to faith, 17% of their families follow.
If a father comes to faith, 93% of their families follow.
Effective ministies target men.

Pressure on men in today’s culture: men are expected to be loving, doting, reliable, uncomplaining, hard working, a provider, fun, good in bed. Yet being a Christian dad or husband often feels like a thankless task.

The church has painted a 2D picture of men; either sensitive and caring or bear wrestler, extreme sport, outdoors guy.

Men are struggling with isolation. Maculinity is in crisis. Christian masculinity is in crisis to an even greater degree than the surrounding culture.

Men like:
Top team dynamics.
Winning feeling.

BBC survey found church is for “wimps, women and it’s irrelevant.”
Tearfund survey revealed that 75% of men are apathetic to church.

Packaging the gospel for men (Acts 15:9)
Let’s not make it difficult.
Men don’t fit easily into church.

Brand problems.
Poor quality, no risk/danger, no involvement, laughing stock.

Fear of emasculation.
Hugging, sharing, talking, listening, caring.

No brotherhood.
No laughing, doing stuff together, producing excellence, bonding through adversity.

Things to change.
– No need to feel God [anti-romanticism]
– No need to always succeed [don’t fear failure]

A tried and tested way of reaching men and making diciples:

Awareness – interest – explanation – commitment
Social – testimonial – apologetic/study – brotherhood
Level 1 – Level 2 – Level 3 – Level 4

Average 30 hearings of the gospel before commitment

Do a man audit at church. Is there anything that would make it difficult for a man to come to Christ?

Men’s ministry
Key ingedients:
Name for the ministry (Men Aloud)
Dp things really well
Partner with CVM
Review and improve
Have fun
Stick with it

The nine guys from church who went on the day agreed to re-launch our defunct men’s mininstry. Watch this space.

About neilrobbie

I am a 6'6" formerly ginger Scot, in a cross cultural marriage to my lovely Londoner wife. We've lived in SE Asia and since 2005, I have served as an Anglican minister in Wolverhampton and West Bromwich.
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