The Crisis in British Masculinity

There’s more evidence in last week’s Daily Mail of discontent amongst British women due to a crisis of masculinity in British men. Liz Jones writes “Who created this generation of feeble ‘Hotel Mum’ men? Er, I did”

Jones is scathing in her criticism of the British male:

men under 40 today are, without doubt, feeble, infantile and feckless.

They don’t have the self-confidence to ask women out except when paralytic on cheap blue vodka…

They never attempt to get out their very low-limit Electron debit cards when the bill turns up…

And they have all been raised on a diet of internet porn and ridiculous men’s magazines (in the male glossy world you are either a ponce or a pervert – there is no middle ground) so that all of them, to a wimp, are useless in bed.

No wonder all these big babies have scurried back home to their football-appliqued duvets – their girlfriends have long since chucked them out.

I’m glad I turned 41 last week!

The blame, says Liz Jones, lies at the feet of British women:

The real culprits are women just like me. Bossy, over-achieving, high-maintenance madams who mistook the notion of being equal to men for a scenario in which we completely took over, infantilised them, cosseted them and ultimately castrated them.

The shift in the power-dynamic between men and women has resulted in men giving up:

I’m afraid the result is that we’ve turned our husbands and boyfriends (and now, I’m perfectly sure, our sons) into perpetual Little Lord Fauntleroys – spoilt, spurious sperm donors still wet behind the ears.

Should women blame themselves like this? The suffragettes did set a precedent in the workplace and modern women took it into the home. Eighties material girls and the nineties girl power brigade continued the trajectory set by their grandmothers’ fight to vote and their mothers’ fight to work and equal rights in the workplace by taking the fight into the home. First male politicians were the target, then male bosses and then husbands and boyfriends.

But women should not be too quick to blame themselves for the decline in British masculinity. Men have a responsibility to live as men in God’s world. Men did not have to react passively or reactively to the demands of bossy women. If anyone is to blame for the spinelessness and ineptitude of modern men it is not their mothers, wives and girlfriends but their fathers and grandfathers. When men stopped fearing God and paying attention to God’s wisdom, the only way their sons could behave is, as God says in the bible, like fools.

Romans 1:21-23 although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened. Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images made to look like mortal man (pornography)

According to the wisdom of God, this is what men should do:

Listen, my son, and be wise, and keep your heart on the right path.

Do not join those who drink too much wine or gorge themselves on meat, for drunkards and gluttons become poor, and drowsiness clothes them in rags.

Listen to your father, who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old.

Buy the truth and do not sell it; get wisdom, discipline and understanding.

The father of a righteous man has great joy; he who has a wise son delights in him.

Proverbs 23:19-24

If men were wise by God’s standards, fearing him and so listening to him, they (we) wouldn’t get “castrated” by bossy women. Men would love the women in their lives as they should by behaving wisely. Women, if you want your man to behave like real man, encourage him to seek God’s wisdom, but don’t boss him into it.

For other posts on this subject see:
Generation X men
Madonna and Generation X women
Jordan and Peter, Gen X again
From the vicarage July 2009
For men only: overcoming porn use

About neilrobbie

I am a 6'6" formerly ginger Scot, in a cross cultural marriage to my lovely Londoner wife. We've lived in SE Asia and since 2005, I have served as an Anglican minister in Wolverhampton and West Bromwich.
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4 Responses to The Crisis in British Masculinity

  1. étrangère says:

    Thankfully, I know men under 40 who don’t fit her list at all! It must be said that they’re all in CUs and churches. Perhaps the situation in the British church ain’t so dire after all!

  2. neilrobbie says:

    It’s good to know that the Christian men you know put God’s wisdom to work. The situation is, sadly, not universal according to some Christian women I know. Though there are no Christian men I’m aware of who are as useless as the ones Liz Jones describes.

  3. Well said Neil, men all over the West need to stand, take courage from their God, and be men. No excuses about being down-trodden by women.

    I must say sadly, although I know some cracking inspiring Christian blokes, the Church wouldn’t be my first port of call if I was looking for a man who embraced masculinity.

  4. neilrobbie says:

    Hi Nathan, welcome to TG! I hope the Y is in good shape and your project is running to programme.

    I think we need to be careful to define biblical masculinity. The issue, it seems, is that men in general have been passive or reactive in response to feminism and too many Christian men think and act like their worldly peers. We need to think through being men and act accordingly from a biblical perspective.

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